shows love is represented as this sudden realization of wanting to spend the rest of their lives together that the main characters have the first moment they stare into each other’s eyes, or in some other stories, the realization happens when the love interest in falling for another character; this last circumstance is what we know as the “love triangle” in which the winner love interest is heavily exalted while the losing love interest is usually not well developed into the story, or on the contrary, is way too perfect for the liking of the main character, making the main couple seem obvious from the very beginning of the plot.
Most of the relationships in these stories are filled with damaging actions and attitudes that are presented as romantic and “sweet” such as the main character extremely depending on the love interest for almost everything, even for simple tasks like opening doors or picking up items from the floor; sometimes the abusive behavior is not only tolerated but applauded and incited like a guy aggressively manhandling a girl and repeatedly yelling at her that he “owns” her.
Lately, memes about crazy girlfriends show a disheartening reality, that many boys and girls are enduring relationships in which jealousy and fights are usual, possessive boyfriends and girlfriends are more and more common and that children in social networks are constantly yearning for partners who are clearly not role models.
We can’t deny that fictional stories do shape our way of defining love, but it’s important that we clarify that all these are fiction, and shouldn’t be trespassing on to reality, they give a story the conflict that it needs to evolve and advance, but it’s not a guideline for love and relationships.