Khanyisa Mnyaka

✨ Maybe it's time to ISOLATE so you can ELEVATE ✨ I can't tell you the number of times I hear my clients LAMENT about how much they want their families to be on this healing journey with them. How many admit that they've stalled so that the people in their lives can also start healing. From buying family and friends self development books that only end up collecting dust to being down right laughed at when they mention the work they're doing on themselves. Baby, they're NOT coming...It's okay to leave them there ❤️

✨ 5 things I wish I knew about self love in my 20s✨ 1️⃣NO is a powerful word. There are so many things I did that deserved a solid no. No regrets (I think, lol) but saying NO is a power move. 2️⃣Self advocacy! Knowing and standing strong in WHO you are requires self advocacy. Being able to say " I don't have the emotional space for that, I don't believe that, I change my mind". 3️⃣Drop people pleasing People pleasing calls us to self abandon. It is in this moments where you KNOW you "don't want to" but you do at the cost of your peace and self trust! 4️⃣Friendships will change Some of your friendships work because you have allowed too much access and disrespect in your life. When you start loving yourself truly, you begin to create boundaries and some friends will not be able to respect them. 5️⃣LET THEM GO People will release for AMPLE reasons and most of those have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. I've had people cut me off because my "lifestyle" doesn't align with their religion or my beliefs are different from theirs. I have cut people off for the same reasons 🤷🏽‍♀️ Let them gooo!

We can choose ourselves and still be loving and kind. Self choosing isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. There’s nothing spiritual about self sacrifice 🤷🏽‍♀️ People who TRULY love you, will give as much as they take. They’ll encourage you to be self preserving and self loving. They’ll show up in ways that honor your authenticity. When you can choose your tribe, choose these ❤️

I have been processing grief this week and it's been a revealing journey. If you've read Traveling While Black and Lesbian, you'll know that I had a difficult relationship with my stepfather. Last week, I was told of his passing. I had always thought that I would feel NOTHING. But here I am, feeling EVERYTHING. The most present of the feelings being anger and also, pockets of sadness that I can't quite yet understand. My best friend @ninasamara once said "Feel all the feels". I have never forgotten that. Our feelings are expansive, they don't need to be explained and they only pass when we allow ourselves to feel all of them, especially the ones that feel uncomfortable. So, if you are grieving, whatever the loss is...feel ALL the feels ❤️

This has been a lobg time coming my loves. I've been flaky with my YT channel but here we go. There's so mych I want to share with you and a 60 second video isnt simply not enough. Subscribe to my YT channel and let's do all the thing together! Link in bio ❤️

Grief is something that has always alluded me. When I was Christian, I would spiritually gaslight myself from experiencing it. I would sum it up to "it was God's will" and push down the pain. Now that I'm open to feeling it all, this grief is a new kind of grief for me. Grieving someone who I haven't spoken to, someone who I hold not particular feeling for and someone who made my childhood a living hell - well this is a new kind of grief. Grieve ❤️

Four years of loving this gorgeous woman. @fitcoachindy you are the best part of everyday. You are the love I have always desired - freeing and holding. You are the adventure I seek. You are the grace I pray for. You are the light that has eliminated so much of my darkness. Your fearless wonder has inspired me. Your consistency has challenged. Your raw honesty has confronted me. Thank you for knowing me the way you do. Thank you for being open to life and all it throws at us. Thank you for being my secure place, the solid ground where my feet always land. Here's to the next four years my love. To ease, to change, to growth, to adventure, to fun, to freedom. Ims love you so deeply 😍🥰🍾

What do you tell yourself about failure? The biggest teacher in my life has been failure. Every failed relationship, every failed business, every failed friendship, every failed challenge...these have taught me about myself. Failure made me a better partner, failure made me dream bigger, failure made me curious. Growth requires us to BEFRIEND failure. Don't avoid and don't loathe it. Make it your friend. Drop a 👏🏾❤️ if this resonates with you!

Hey Empaths, Please rest. Please play. Please take a break. Please tune out. Your soul needs it ❤️