Jakie Pilossoph

It’s baffling to me: Why is it that sometimes the person who left is angry, bitter and mean to their spouse? The person turns it around on the spouse they just left, and makes their entire affair the person they are leaving’s fault. I think the person feels guilty for leaving and/or cheating or falling in love with someone, and so to self-protect, they convince themselves (and others) that it is the spouse’s fault that they cheated in the first place. Instead of being angry and mean to a spouse, wouldn’t it make sense if (A), be in therapy, (B), the person took accountability of the cheating, getting into another relationship and leaving, and (C), acknowledges the guilt?

Mother’s Day, and every year we celebrate and do something fun. But honestly, I feel the privilege of being a mother every day of the year. I asked several moms I know what being a mother means to them, and compiled their responses for my Love Essentially column, (published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and several other newspapers across the country.) Being a mom means… Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and several other newspapers across the country.

I think these days, it’s pretty common for some woman to chase a guy who just isn’t that interested, especially in dating after divorce. It’s hard to meet people, so when they meet someone they like, they are hoping to morph the person into Mr. Right. 2. But letting someone treat you in a way you don’t think is good enough is toxic to self-esteem, self-confidence and self-love. Love love love love love him.

What I mean by that is, if you are going through a divorce or a breakup, you might be in shock or devastated and sad and confused and angry and scared, (emotions that are all immensely painful and that take a toll). So, when I found out about Onward, a New York City based post-breakup concierge service that helps people with the logistics of a breakup, I thought, ‘What a great idea! My mother’s work was also the genesis for my own professional endeavor, my startup, Onward: A Post-Breakup Concierge Service, which I launched on Valentine’s Day in New York City with my childhood best friend and cofounder. You can break up and still be a champion for relationships – Even after a 33-year career as a divorce attorney, observing truly awful scenarios play out between separating couples, my mother was somehow not jaded by human relationships.