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For those of you that don’t know Mandela SH Dixon is the Founder & CEO of Founder Gym, an online training center for underrepresented founders who want to build successful tech startups. In 3 short years of being in San Francisco, I’ve been able to work at Facebook, Asana, book speaking engagements at CMX, the University of San Francisco, and other local events, and almost every great opportunity that allows me to level up, came from me simply showing up and being at the right place at the right time and connecting with the right people. If you want to be like Mandela SH Dixon, follow her IG stories, they’re lit and inspiring. Not what you think you should want, what others want you to want, or what they want for you.

A recent article in the New York Times suggests that summoning the power to say no, not only frees up our schedule from things we’ve been dreading from the get-go but it also subconsciously reminds ourselves that we are in the driver seat of our lives. no” and use it as a key to open doors to self care, a medicine to heal you from over work and under-appreciation, and a weapon against the parts of our lives that seek to exhaust us, overwhelm us, and stretch us too thin. With that said, I’m taking my annual blogging hiatus to refill my cup, read, travel, have fun, rest, and all that good stuff I don’t normally prioritize because I’m low key addicted to work. We may need to consider a different approach, a fresh perspective, and sometimes we need to humble ourselves and listen to someone who’s a few steps ahead of us.

The MacArthur BART station where Nia Wilson was murdered is the same BART stop I get off at to see my therapist, every two weeks; I have many black friends and colleagues in the Bay Area that frequent this stop. Nia Wilson’s murder hits home for many black people because we know that with the current administration, attacks of violence against black people and people of color, often trigger other racists and white supremacists to follow suite. So if you’e not in the Bay Area, you still need to be careful because a white supremacists in {insert random rural city in the U. S} might be emboldened to be a copycat killer and perpetuate the victimization of black people. I’ve noticed that many people in the Bay Area don’t lock their car doors!

For example, “scared out of my wits and more scared than I can ever remember feeling in my life. And feeling [name the physical feeling] and [name the emotional feeling], and feeling it[name the level of intensity], makes me want to [name the impulse]. For example, “learn to live with life being never the same again and to start by interacting with (vs. withdrawing) others, comforting each other, thinking together what we can do now vs. focusing on what we can’t and then have each person commit to doing something to achieve our desired outcome. For example, when we are passengers in a car we may not be able to retrace the route taken from our home to a new destination, but if we have to drive, pay close attention to where we are going; our brain literally builds a pathway of neurons that “remember” how to get from A to B. Such bulking up of spatial memory has been studied in London cab drivers who need to recall thousands of streets and laneways.