One day I came across an article about stressful life events which mentioned a stress inventory test.
Experiencing many stressful events resulted in a high score and a high score meant you were at risk for stress-related health problems.
Although parenting a child with mental health needs isn’t specifically on the list, items like change in financial state (check), increase in arguments about child raising (check) and change in health/behavior of a family member (double check) certainly are.
A few times, I’d jokingly tell a friend that I was getting close to setting a record for stress points