Susie

You know who is one of the most amazing people I know? My cousin — her name is Melissa — is probably the most selfless person I have ever met. She is a super kind badass who wants to help women all across the world

Number 3 was in the 4th grade play, Number 4 was in the 4th grade play, and Number 5 has been waiting for years to be in the 4th grade play, too. And Mom,” Number 4 continued, “she said it like it was just another thing. Number 4 had her first lesson in learning that when people don’t like you, it’s not so much about you as it is about them. Because 1) I don’t want to deal with the meltdown that ensues, and 2) because I just don’t like to see my kids feeling sad.

The exact same cilantro that I love they can’t stand! And then imagine she walks into school and one of her friends says, “OMG, I love your outfit! ! ! What if when someone said something shitty to our kids instead of seeking out the other kid, instead of approaching the parents — because then we are teaching our kids that other people are in control of their thoughts about themselves — what if we told them that’s just one of those people who thinks cilantro tastes like soap? You can try to keep serving cilantro to people who can’t stand it, or you can accept that they just don’t like it.

And I have finally reached the place where I am okay with people being wrong about me. I’m okay with them being wrong about me. I’m okay with them being wrong about me. Working on remembering that if people are wrong about me, well, then it’s very possible that I could be wrong about them, too.