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Part of my Scripture reading and study yesterday, was 1 Samuel 4. Verses 3 and 4a, in particular, piqued my interest

When the people of this world say they want or need rest, what they mean is that they want time (whether five minutes, five days, five weeks, etc.) When the people of God say we want or need rest, what we mean is that we we want time (whether five minutes, five days, five weeks, etc.) to spend on the desires and will of our God and Father through His Word. It means diligently working to die to self daily, so that we might more fully live as Christ to this world. To rest in Christ, means to remind our souls of who we really are before a holy God, and how kindly and mercifully He has treated us because of the finished work of His Son, on the Cross.

If you love your spouse and children, you will study how to best love and care for them as God commanded: how to keep the home, how to budget and be good stewards of all the good God has given you, how to best communicate and pray for your family, all to the glory of God. If you love the Lord your God, you will research/study Him: seeking His will, glory, and pleasure through readying, studying, meditating, memorizing His Word; praying without ceasing in accordance with His Word, and fervently seeking opportunities to work out your salvation as you see Day of Christ approaching nearer and nearer. I strongly encourage all of you to examine your hearts, as I do, with the Word of God, so that you too may know what you love most: the Lord Jesus, or all that is in the world (1 Jn 2:16). Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever.

And therefore, as God's holy and dearly loved children, we shouldn't enter into marriage like those of this world: with self-focus and selfish affections. But a husband can only sacrificially love His wife as Christ, if he first loves his own body (Eph 5:29) by nourishing his spirit with the Word of God so that he might turn to his wife, and nourish her with God's Word (admonish where she is idle, encourage where she is fainthearted, help where she is weak, and be patient with her always;1 Thess 5:14). And this is the greatest most noble sacrifice a husband can make for his wife: To daily die to any self-indulgence in order to daily practice the discipline of feeding his own soul with God's Word, so that he might lovingly and rightly sanctify his wife with the same Word God used to sanctify his soul. Yes, I admit, it's far easier to submit in everything, to a husband who's loving you as Christ loves His Bride.