It’s a striking piece because the mothers seem unable to imagine a world wherein abusers (in these cases and most cases, men) are held accountable for their violent actions.
They engage in victim-blaming, of course, and try to thread the needle between “falsely accused” and “wrongly accused,” mainly predicated on their own definitions of what counts as sexual assault, definitions that have, thankfully, become more comprehensive since when those mothers attended university.
It throws into relief how we accept without question the consequences of being a victim; or rather, how we have all become ok with the cost of being victimized (because being a victim is a feminized position in our society’s hierarchy and we cannot care about the feminine).
But when it is time to seriously look at the cost to those who harm once that harm comes to light, all we see is the ruination of the abusers’ lives, all we focus on is how hard it is for them to be held accountable, all we want to know is how long it will take for them to be redeemed so we can wash our hands of this case and, in turn, this issue and resume moving through the world with our heads in the sand.