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It’s been a great 14 years blogging at Online Dating Insider, and now it’s time to move on. 4,000 blog posts, hundreds of interviews and several hundred advisory calls with dating entrepreneurs and investors. Who knows how many people met The One because of the work I’ve done over the years? Now I’m taking some time to figure out what’s next.

Longtime dating expert Julie Spira wrote a piece on HuffPo about a Vanity Fair article,  Tinder and the Dawn of “Dating Apocalypse. The VF article is a retread of a topic that’s been beaten to death by the media and dating bloggers for almost two years, but VF decided to hang out with a bunch of New Yorkers who rack up Tinder sex-mates like there’s no tomorrow and talk to them like they are adults or something. Online dating has turned a large portion of the dating population into a bunch of maladjusted sexaholics (for the most part, if you read anything in the media about online dating these days). I’ve always felt like a bit of an edgy ombudsman regarding the online dating industry.

Back in the day, Markus at POF told me that something like 75% (I think? ) of their code base was focused on anti-fraud measures. The humans at Are You Human say: Instead of searching for bots, which evolve in a matter of days, “Are You Human” finds and verifies humans by analyzing natural user behavior across hundreds of thousands of websites. Bots can’t consistently look and act like real humans on every page, every day, so they’re never added to the list, and all that’s left are real humans. Since then, we’ve evolved to analyze natural interaction in any environment, and now we analyze and re-verify hundreds of millions of humans every day in interactions across millions of websites.

Instead of doing what everyone else supposedly does, AM charged $17 for what amounts to running an SQL database query to remove all traces of a user from their system. And that was complete BS. “Full Delete netted ALM $1.7mm in revenue in 2014. Users almost always pay with credit card; their purchase details are not removed as promised, and include real name and address, which is of course the most important information the users want removed. Avid Life Media has been instructed to take Ashley Madison and Established Men offline permanently in all forms, or we will release all customer records, including profiles with all the customers’ secret sexual fantasies and matching credit card transactions, real names and addresses, and employee documents and emails.